I’ll ask you a question: how many times have you been photographed by a professional in your life? If you answered: “never”, don’t worry, you’re certainly not the only one. Indeed, from my experience as a wedding photographer, I can tell you that, apart from a few exceptions, the bride and groom have never been photographed by a professional in their whole life.
Let’s face it, your experience with the camera is minimal at best; certainly, you’re not used to be the center of the attention, like a model, with flashlights and a stranger that tells you what to do. But do not worry, you don’t have to be afraid of looking awkward or unnatural. Posing for a photographer is not as embarrassing as you might think, in fact, most of the time you will not even notice you’re actually being photographed.
You will be so busy greeting and talking to the guests, paying attention to your dress, following the words of the priest (or the master of ceremonies) or not slipping because of the rice, that the photographer will be the last of your thoughts. The fear I’m talking about mainly concerns photos where you will remain alone with the photographer. I’m talking about the photographs of the preparation, while you’re getting dressed. Or again, the photos in the church, those that follow the ceremony. In short, I’m talking about the most suggestive and intimate kind of pictures.
Do you know what separates a good photographer from an exceptional photographer? His ability to create an environment in which the couple can forget about him and the camera. A really good photographer shows himself to you first as a friend and then as a professional. He will know you first and know your future husband. In this way, during the photo session, he will always know what to say and how to make you feel at ease.
If you feel yourself awkward, he will suggest things like: “tell him something in the ear”; or he will ask you questions to make you talk, to make everything as natural as possible; or again, he will tell you things to make you laugh and have fun so your photos will reveal serenity, joy, happiness. But if this is not enough and, finding yourself face to face with the photographer terrifies you, the thought alone makes you blush and you just can let go despite the professional’s commitment, do not worry, not everything is lost.
Over the course of my career, I have discovered a great trick to turn even the most chilling terror towards a lens, in a pleasant, even relaxing experience. Do you want to know what this trick is? It’s very simple: stop for a moment, close your eyes and think about the reason why you’re doing all of this. Think about how much you care about these shots, think about how you got here. Think about the day when you decided to get married.
Think about all the adventures you have experienced with the man you have by your side, think about him; think about the emotions that only he is able to make you feel. Think about the day you realized that you didn’t want anyone else but him by your side. Now, with these emotions, take a breath, open your eyes and let go. The photographer will take care of the rest.
Look at your husband, focus all your attention on him. Do not think about doing things, live the moment and enjoy it. Your wedding day only happens once. You can not live it multiple times. And you can not have regrets. It’s your day. And you’re beautiful. Change your way of thinking from: “we are going to be photographed by a guy”, to: “what a wonderful way to celebrate and immortalize our wedding!”
Want to know what, then, is the best way to finally overcome the embarrassment of being photographed? Actually be photographed. How? With an engagement session. With an engagement session, you can:
- easily overcome the fear of the camera;
- know exactly what makes you look more natural;
- have a clear idea of the final result you can expect on your wedding day;
If you want to know more about the services of this type, read this Engagement Reportage of Rosa and Daniel.
And remember: too many of us do not live their dreams because they are living their fears. Don’t make this mistake. Live the dream of your big day to the fullest.